The Man’s Handbook

Everything you need to know when buying her sexy lingerie. Make sure it is the perfect gift with a little help from our lingerie experts.


Guys, if you trying to decide if sexy lingerie is the right gift for her, then let us tell you; it certainly is!

65% of women believe that lingerie is one of the best gifts a lover can buy. All you have to do is get it right!

We know choosing lingerie seems like a minefield … but don’t worry we are here to help. Follow this guide “How to buy her sexy lingerie”, and you won’t go wrong.

Before we start

Before we start, you need to know that this is going to take a little bit of work on your side, but trust us, it will be worth it.  Unfortunately, just buying something that you think is hot, in any size and any colour, isn’t enough. As a result, a gift which you could both have unwrapped and enjoyed will most certainly have to be returned.

So, the expert team here at Baby Jane Lingerie have put together this essential guide of how to buy sexy lingerie for her to make sure you get it just right. 


Always keep this in mind throughout the whole lingerie shopping experience is that this gift is for her. 

Of course she is going to look hot, and it will certainly be a gift for your eyes , but it is for her. It has to make her feel amazing, but as a result we’re sure she will make you feel amazing too :).


Right, let’s shop

Buying her sexy lingerie really isn’t as complicated as it may sound.  It’s time to do a bit of detective work…


1. Size does matter

OK, you need to pop upstairs for a sneaky look in her lingerie drawer. (Do wait until she has gone to the shops, or round to friends, so you don’t get caught!)  If you are struggling to find time when she’s not about, a great tip is to collect up all the laundry for the machine and have a look then. (She’ll be impressed by this too!)

When you buy her sexy lingerie, it is important that you get the correct size. So,, you need to check the labels in both her lingerie and her clothes. Make sure they are all items that she wears now, to ensure you get the correct sizes.

Write down the following:

  • Bra size – This will be a combination of a number and a letter(s) such as, 32B, 34C, 36DD.  It is important you write both the numbers and letters down, as you need both.
  • Knickers – Easy, these are the same as her clothes – 8, 10, 12.  They could also be S/M/L/XL. This is OK too.
  • Clothes – Again these will be 8,10,12, etc or S/M/L.  Remember to check both her tops and bottoms, as they may be different sizes.

2. Know your styles

To buy her sexy lingerie, you don’t have to opt for the obvious bra and panty set. Here are some other popular styles which might work well for your lady. Just click for more detail on the different styles:

  • Babydolls are feminine, delicate and sexy. Perfect for nightwear or bedtime fun.
  • Cami sets are casual but sexy. Made up of shorts and a top, they make great nightwear.
  • Corsets are boned bodies that pull you in at the waist.
  • Bustiers are elegant, and perfect for anyone wanting to cover their tummy and still feel sexy. They are similar to corsets but do not have the boning.
  • Cami suspenders are basques, but longer and with suspenders attached.
  • Waspies are a basque corset that covers just the waist with no top half. They can be worn alone, or with a bra.
  • Bodystockings are a teddy that covers your whole body including your legs. They are often crotchless.
  • Hosiery and Tights, stockings or hold ups. Remember that hold ups will stay upon their own, whereas stockings will need suspenders.

3. Colours

When you buy her sexy lingerie, remember that you know her better than anyone! So you should know her favourite colours, therefore the safest choice is to buy something in that. If she has more than one fave colour, then it’s ok to buy the colour that you prefer her in. After all, I am sure you will be admiring how beautiful she looks!

4. Fabrics

This all depends if the lingerie you’re buying is for everyday, or for a special occasion.

  • Lingerie to be worn everyday is designed not to be seen under clothing, so opt for more neutral colours and comfortable fabrics here. As you’d expect, everyday lingerie tends to be less fussy than those designed for the bedroom.
  • For a special occasion, satin or lace are always a great idea, classy and seductive. We have a huge selection to buy online and have delivered to your door.

Stick with the rules above and don’t forget, we are always here to help.

5. What will she like

So you have the style, colour and the fabric she’ll love, but do you:

  • Get her something similar to what she already wears?
  • Risk it and go for something totally different?

Stop for a minute and think. Does she ever say that she would love to try something new? Is she lacking in confidence with part of her body ? Have a peek on her Instagram account and see if there are any clues of things she has liked.

TOP TIP : Note down a few different options and see which ones match all the rules. Make sure that they match both her personality and taste, and you are on to a winner.


6. Our returns guarantee

If you have followed all the steps in this guide, then it is unlikely that you will need to return your item. However, we know that sometimes you will need to. So, whether you need a bigger size or a different colour, with our returns guarantee you have peace of mind. Just let us know that you need to return or exchange your item and we will arrange that for you. Please don’t forget we are always on the end of the phone to help.



Now you’ve done all the hard work, it’s time to find her the perfect gift. You’ve got this!